Why do Spells Backfire?

Sassy asks...
how do you stop spells from backfiring? Everything seems to backfire with me! For example, trying to stop someone lying about me at work turns into me being accused of lying about someone else.
Thanks for your answer.

WD responds...
Often we go about working spells by attempting to control another's thoughts, feelings, or actions. This approach often "backfires" and that's why it is best to focus on ourselves in ritual. For example, you may want to do a protection from gossip spell on yourself instead of trying to tie someone else's tongue. Give it a shot and see if this line of magickal work doesn't bring better results for you.